Hi–is there anyone out there?

Is there anyone out there

Hello – Is there anyone out there?  I certainly hope so 🙂

I am so sorry that it has been extremely quiet at Seduced by Beauty, but life has had a few up’s and down’s these last weeks and I haven’t felt up to doing much more than bunkering down with family.

I am trying to put one foot in front of the other and follow the mantra ‘slowly does it’ and I have given myself permission to take my time and not to feel pressured to produce content just for the sake of it. Both my websites are extremely important to me and I don’t want to publish something that I am not happy with – you deserve better.

I have made no secret of my feelings about our daughter moving 8 hours away, and if I am 100% honest I have been struggling. I had no idea I would find things so difficult when both of the children moved out of home – I actually thought Mr SBB and I would be beside ourselves with excitement. Whilst we are both extremely proud of both of the children, their moving away has left a huge hole in our home and we are really missing them.

Lou Lou Collage

To add to our sadness we finally had to say goodbye to our beautiful Lou Lou.  17 years is a fabulous run, but her loss has had a huge impact on us and she is missed every. single. day.  I wrote about her passing on Promote SA – my other website that the talented Nici from Beauty and Food and I formed earlier this year. Nici and I have lots of plans for Promote SA and along with Seduced by Beauty this is definitely keeping me very busy.

When I am overwhelmed I tend to retreat, and this is what I have been doing for the last few weeks. Every time I open the laptop and start to write I become consumed by the sheer volume of work I want to produce and the vast number of posts I already have composed in my mind. Why is it that it is so easy in your head but when you want to produce the piece you hit a wall? I can only put it down to stress. I don’t normally suffer stress but I think these huge life changes have hit me in more ways that I could imagine.

On a much brighter note due to her being a teacher our daughter has been home for the last week. We have been enjoying catching up over dinner, shopping, movies and generally having some girly time. Oh how I have missed it. Let’s hope I don’t end up a blubbering mess when she leaves again.

Not only have I been busy with Emily being home, but we have also welcomed another family member – Cooper.

Cooper the Lhatese

Cooper is a Lhatese – a Lhasa Apso x Maltese and has quickly wrapped us around his little paws.  We collected him from a breeder a 5 hour round trip away on the wettest day for 75 years and is 14 weeks old today. He is a charmer and has done a wonderful job of helping mend our broken hearts. He may look a little like Lou Lou but he will never replace her – he has his own special place in our hearts and home.

I am hoping to be back to normal scheduling in the next week so I thank you all for your patience and I look forward to sharing lots of news and reviews in the weeks to come.

xx Kate

Comments

  1. Trish Drinkwater says

    OH Kate – I am soooo sorry about Lou Lou but you’ve definitely done the right thing getting Cooper – speaking from experience here! Pets give love so unconditionally and it is always difficult saying goodbye, even when, as my darling “Other Mum” said, when we had to let Tara go, “you’re giving her the gift of love, letting her go peacefully.” Thankfully we can let our pets go with dignity when it gets too much for them. We never let them go from our hearts, though.

    Do take your time, so pleased you’re letting yourself do things quietly although that in itself isn’t always easy. Please know that your QUALITY work is appreciated – I read very few blogs on a constant basis, I find it interesting but too time consuming to read many. Consequently I’m super fussy which blogs I read and yours are always opened with pleasure when I see a new blog – much of that pleasure comes from knowing the quality of your work. It is definitely appreciated that you never put something out for the sake of it, having put so much of yourself into each article it is very obvious how much you care.

    Sorry for the essay – but I want you to know you’re cared about – very much. With love.

    Trish_D.

    • says

      Thanks so much for regularly stopping by Trish. You have no idea how much it means to me to know that I have genuine followers who care about what I have to say.

      Cooper has settled into our home so beautifully that we cannot believe that it has only been 3 weeks! He is the smoochiest dog I know and we have started to bring him into the Clinic every day and the patients absolutely love it. He kisses them and then plonks himself on their laps and looks like the King 🙂

      Our daughter has been home for the last 2 weeks for school holidays so it has been just lovely having her around again. It will be another 10 weeks before we see her again but I think I am more prepared this time (even though I cried when I had to say goodbye again).

      Thanks once again xxxx

    • says

      Thanks so much Beth. I am slowly starting to feel more like myself and am hoping that I am getting my groove back 🙂

  2. Kellie says

    I’m so sorry about the passing of Lou Lou. They become such a part of the family that it’s hard when it’s time for them to go.

    On a separate note, I too have experienced one of my children moving out of home and away to study (teaching). I still have one living at home but at 18, he is rarely here due to his busy social life. It has had a huge impact on me and for a while I felt very lost. It has been like a grieving process of sorts.

    Anyway, I hope you enjoyed the time with your daughter when she was home and I hope you are enjoying your new family member (Cooper).

    • says

      Thanks so much for your support Kellie 🙂 I am feeling stronger every day and Emily was home for 2 weeks for the school holidays and that definitely helped my state of mind. I really miss having her around but it is definitely made easier knowing that she is happy and loves what she is doing. I am grateful that she comes home every school holidays as that means that we are only apart for 10 weeks at a time. I have been told that in America there are great support networks for people learning to cope when the kids move out which I think is a great idea as I don’t think enough people talk about how they feel at this time.

      Cooper has made himself at home and is an absolute delight. I have never met a more loving dog and he endears himself to everyone he meets – we are very lucky!